“Superwomen Have Breakdowns”

How a therapist made me rethink my view of success.

A woman writes in her planner.
A woman writes in her planner.
Photo by Cathryn Lavery on Unsplash

My First Therapy Session

At the time, I was twenty-four. By all standards, I was doing really well. I had a growing career at a company with endless opportunities. I was building up a workout routine and lived in a beautiful apartment that was planted in a nice neighborhood. Wonderful people surrounded me, both friends and mentors — people I could trust. My evenings were suddenly being spent on my second job, a budding freelance writing career that has now grown bigger than I ever could have imagined.

Old Ladies Pull No Punches

At the next session, we started talking about me. I told her about my path through school and my career. We talked about my transition from data-entry to system analysis and my new goal to work a second job as a writer. The conversation eventually led to my dreams and aspirations, as well as the steps that I was taking to get there.

Yes, You Can Do It — But For How Long?

We all have our thresholds, and the circumstances surrounding them matters. For me, taking on projects is energizing, not draining. When I don’t have something to do, I make something to do. It might be optimizing my filing system or outlining a new project, but it is always something. If anything, when I slow down, I get stir crazy and destructive.

Freelance Writer, Ghostwriter, and Host of Among the Dirt and Trees.

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